I have often wondered why some of the topics that are least mentioned in the bible are some of the most controversial topics among churches. The one I was considering is clothing. Everyone has opinions on that one. I wonder though how much is opinions and how much is actually God’s ideas.
Recently a video went around the web, speaking on the topic of modesty, talking to women. It seemed to have some excellent points on what men think of women’s clothing and went to explain that women need to consider what they are wearing. I felt like there was some valid points in said video, I had a big problem with it. It was very one sided. Most of the people posting it, were women, of course, doing a great job or spreading the video as was intended. I was gratified to see that many women were interested in this topic. But I felt it really fell short!
Before any of my few readers, attack me for some of my views…..let me explain.
Any video on modesty or article on this topic is not complete until you address the male and female parties of the world. Any man who addresses one without the other, has begun to fall into a trap of one sided blame.
There are women who do not dress modestly. There are men who struggle with this. These are facts.
My question or point is….there is always going to be things in this life that will stumble women and men. If we seek to go out and stop all others from stumbling us, well, we are fighting a losing battle. Everyone has different views, different things that “stumble” them. One man does not eat meat, another enjoys a good steak. One woman thinks bikini’s are modest, another one does not….
This is where we need to look within ourselves and see “Why are we stumbled? ” What are we doing to prevent sin ourselves?
I hear a variety of comments on modesty that vary to the extreme. I would challenge each of us to make sure that we, as we go through life, are not becoming Pharisees about this issue. Are you looking at other women and judging them for their choices of clothing?
I was reading in the bible and realized that Jesus did not talk about clothing very much. I wonder if it was such a important issue, wouldn’t He have addressed it more? I wonder why He did not stand and look disapprovingly at Simon Peter fishing naked, or at least reprimand him.
I found two places where Jesus spoke about clothing.
This is one:
“For they bind heavy burdens and grievous to be borne, and lay them on men’s shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers. But all their works they do for to be seen of men: they make broad their phylacteries, and enlarge the borders of their garments,” Matthew 23:4, 5, KJV.
“Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye pay tithe of mint and anise and cummin, and have omitted the weightier matters of the law, judgment, mercy, and faith: these ought ye to have done, and not to leave the other undone. Ye blind guides, which strain at a gnat, and swallow a camel.” Matthew 23:23, 24, KJV.
I wonder, are we straining at a gnat, and swallowing a camel?
The other reference…..
“And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on. The life is more than meat, and the body is more than raiment. Consider the ravens: for they neither sow nor reap; which neither have storehouse nor barn; and God feedeth them: how much more are ye better than the fowls?” Luke 12:22-24, KJV.
This one, He straight out tells us not to worry about our food or clothes.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not a nudist, or someone who does not believe we should dress modestly. But I think that on this topic, we have gone too far. We have taken something that is simply everyday life, and we have taken it to the point where we make it a discussion that separates families, churches and others.
We have the Amish and half their religion based on types of clothing to be worn, we have the people who left the Amish who make sure they are not wearing anything that could classify them as half Amish still. We have the different churches and religions -Mennonites, Hutterites, German Baptist, Fundamental baptist, Latter Day Saints, SDA, Unitarian, and others who all share different beliefs and argue about the types of clothing to wear. I wonder if we have lost so much of our faith in God and the power of a relationship in Jesus, because we are arguing about types of clothing?
I wonder if you have known a time in your life when you were in love with someone? If you are in love with your dearest love, do you notice the other women or men around you all the time? You are thinking about your love and when you will see him/her again, what you will do and how much you care about them.
Are you in love in God? When your relationship is the way it should be with God, you will find it much harder to notice the immodesty of others around you. You will find yourself more focused on your relationship with God, with others, and instead of looking at how you wish others would change to stop stumbling you, you will be making sure you are not stumbling others.
My point of this blog post is not to identify one dress style over another as modest or another as immodest, but my thought is to look within ourselves and when we get dressed in the mirror can you look at yourself and know that God will be pleased with what you are wearing, you are pleased with what you are wearing and you are neat and clean. I like to remember that God created us to be women, and that it is a good thing to make sure we are not walking around in gunny sacks trying to hide that fact. I bet someone would be stumbled by that too….probably the fact that they have no sleeves. (Just kidding = )
I am not disregarding any of the verses on not stumbling, just hoping that you stop and take another look.