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The Memory of You by Catherine West


Reviewed by Martha Artyomenko

About the book:

Thirteen years ago, Natalie lost a part of herself when her twin sister died. Will traveling back to the family winery finally put the memory to rest, or will it completely destroy her?

When Natalie Mitchell learns her beloved grandfather has had a heart attack, she’s forced to return to their family-owned winery in Sonoma, something she never intended to do.

Tanner Collins, the vintner on Maoilios, is trying to salvage a bad season and put the Mitchell family’s winery back in business. When Natalie Mitchell shows up, Tanner sees his future about to be crushed. Natalie intends to close the gates, unless he can convince her otherwise.

But finding freedom from the past means facing it.

My Review:

Do you ever read a book that leaves you a bit feeling “hung over” when you are done? You don’t really want to pick up another book, because this one was just so good?
That is how this book was for me. The main character, as we dug into her past, her heart and her struggles, we see the breakdown of PTSD for laymen. We can see what it did to her, how it harmed her life, even years after the incident.
I felt like this made this book unique. It was not the setting, but the people that made this book uniquely special. If you are not someone that has known someone in your everyday life that has PTSD, this may help you understand it, but also relate to the story of a normal, everyday person, not off a battle front, that struggles, but is gifted in many ways still.
I loved the setting in wine country, and learned a few things about wine making that I did not know before. Catherine West has given us another masterpiece of fiction. It is more than fiction, it is a tale of forgiveness, grace, and overcoming when everything is against us.

You can purchase this book here. I highly recommend you do so!

The Memory of You 


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1 thing often misunderstood about forgiveness

I think many times we believe that if we forgive someone that means that suddenly we are accepting what they did did not hurt us, it was not wrong and we are fine with them!

In some cases, that might be.

Let’s say you really hurt someone, on accident, on purpose, but you really hurt them. They ended up missing a finger. They may forgive you, you can say you are sorry all day long, but the finger will never come back. They will always be missing a finger.

Sometimes a hurt, even though it can heal, some hurt is permanent. It will always still hold the consequence. I guarantee, you are never going to hang out with that friend when he is using a knife ever again.

But doesn’t that mean you haven’t forgiven him? Shouldn’t you be fine with hanging out with him, his knife, and just remember that he didn’t mean to do it the first time? No!

We need to remember to use wisdom. Some people make very poor choices, we can love and forgive them, but sometimes a consequence of our actions mean that there cannot be the same relationship or sometime there is not even any relationship anymore.

Forgiveness is sometimes more about you than the recipient. It is about letting go of the hurt, so that every time you look at the missing finger, you are not angry inside. You still don’t like knives, you don’t hang out with that friend when he is cutting up meat, but you have let go of the anger inside so that you do not become someone that may cause hurt to others in the same way.

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